You live, try to succeed and in the end you got no popularity among men. How come? In this article we’ll answer this question.
Why do more and more women want to be strong and independent? Because they don’t know the the dark side of “iron lady” life. They see only a good image: great job, new expensive car and outfit from the latest collection of a popular designer.
A businesswoman will never confess that she is alone and lives with a feeling of emptiness inside. You wonder: “What don’t you like, men? It’s not fair: beautiful, successful, smart – and still alone”. And we can name 8 reasons why a man can’t live with a strong woman.
1. Feeling of competition
How do they a strong woman? A man in a robe. And now think why do a man needs a person whom he must prove that he is stronger, smarter and more successful?
Businesswoman is so strongly connected with a though “All by myself” that she can’t accept anybody’s help. She considers it to be weakness. But a role of a defender and a provider makes a man Man. If you can bring you bag from a car to you house, call a plumber and buy a ticket to Maldives – why do you need him?
2. She got no female qualities
And if she has them they are hidden behind a bunch of complexes and fears. She is afraid of being soft, delicate because she has been creating a iron armor and cultivating male qualities for years. A strong woman is a good leader but a bad wife.
For a man home is the place where they wait for him. The place where one can have a break from problems, get some energy, and support. And with an “iron lady” he only gets a new war. One can’t tell her about his problems because he will hear “I told you, you never listen”. She doesn’t care about making home cosy because “there’s a maid for it”. And that’s not everything. In such a woman one can’t find understanding, purity, warmth – original female qualities. And then he goes looking for a woman who can give him all of this.
3. She likes to control everything
From a hotel to a sex pose. Everything is about her desires, she feels comfortable this way. Parents control, traumatic experience taught her to rely only on herself without recommendations from anybody. A normal man thinks that initiative comes out him, so the conflict happens. A woman can’t let him rule any situation.
Such women attract weak men. Who are glad to put all responsibilities to anybody else and make a comfortable life at the expense of a woman.
4. Moving to an ideal
A strong woman always must get A in everything. So if she chooses a man he must be ideal in a hundred different aspects. Of course she can’t find such an ideal one. And she complains that normal men got extinct like dinosaurs.
Even if she meets a man that she likes such relations won’t last long. She tries to make him better, more perfect. The man can’t stand such pressure and goes away. She forbids this and that, make thousand recommendations. After some time spent with such a woman the guy realizes that he doesn’t live his life but only tries to live up to her expectations. And then the break up happens.
5. She is cycled in her self-development
It’s not true that men can’t be glad for their women succeed. If a woman ont only inspires a man but also does what she likes – it’s great! But it’s another case when her plans and goals are in priority, and the family gets only some attention after them.
Really busy women can associate a family with unnecessary troubles and obligations. Men and children (if there are any) get time when it’s nothing to do. And the career, business-trips and other activities are more important.
6. They can’t surrender
Many women believe that their inner power and sometimes the “bitch mode” attracts decent partners. But in real life such things only scare men.
These women won’t stand any compromise and will struggle for their opinion. Every effort to change a situation by a man is considered to be a freedom danger. Every quarrel ends up with a great scandal. Female ability to surrender is not known by them. And a normal man doesn’t want to live with such a ticking bomb.
7. Rights and obligations
Historically a man was a hunter and a warrior and a woman was a housekeeper. And now imagine that there are two hunters who live together. Each of them is ready to bring food but none of them wants to cook meals. So they either die from hunger or go and find more submissive partner.
This is the situation with a strong woman. Did you hear about men who cook dinner, care for children and clean a flat? This is the only variant for a woman who is not ready to change her point of view. Role exchange. Women takes man’s functions, and man takes woman’s ones. But it’s important to realize that strong and successful men won’t like such a variant.
8. Mission absence
A woman is creator, not a warrior by nature. If she struggles for a post of a leader with a man she destroys the system of values. There is no balance between “to give” and “to take” in relations. She just takes what she needs from a man and gives him nothing.
Females qualities, female mission to give beauty and share energy was devalued many times. So some women decided to become supergirls. But move in a wrong direction.
Why do you think there are so many courses like “How to become feminine”, “How to attract a man”? Because playing a role of a strong woman many ones forgot about their original appointment and now try to fill in the blanks in their knowledge.
If you still think that being strong and independent is cool throw this illusion out of your head. Be yourself, develop your female qualities and do what you like – and then you’ll have harmony in your life.