It’s terrible even to think that your man is physically with you but in thoughts he is with another woman during sex.

We found out in which cases such nightmare can happen.

To enter man’s mind is not possible so to understand what he thinks about can be done only by straight questions when he embraces you. But if you decided to ask him don’t hope for confessions. Maybe he imagines sometimes that he is having sex with a mulatto girl, but he won’t hurt with this brutal truth if he is not stupid and if he loves you. It’s better to understand all the situation and close this case for once and forever. We asked psychologists why men fantasize about other women during sex.

1. He can’t get orgasm without additional stimulation

Even if a fantasy becomes an additional stimulation. And the main character of this fantasy can be different girls: an ex-girlfriend, a pornstar, a waitress whom you saw in a restaurant a couple of days ago, or maybe his mother’s friend whom she was interested in when he was young.

2. He got used to watch porn with the same actress

If you forgot about how important are neuron connections in sex and sexual pleasure, we want to remind you that the same action repeated many times have the same results in a row, than a strong connection appears in a brain. Pavlov’s dog principle works like this. And if a man climaxed many times watching porn with the same actress his brain will make a connection between her image and orgasm. So to get orgasm having sex with a girl he must imagine another girl – this actress in our case. Porn makes really bad jokes sometimes: it doesn’t only form our sexual preferences but gives us not very useful installations.

3. He is bored with the partner

Sexual fantasies is one of the ways to diversify intimate life or escape the reality. If a woman doesn’t satisfy man in something it can become a reason for having dreams about other woman. He can compare his previous girlfriend with the present one and if his ex-girlfriend made some strong impact on him he can remind his previous experience.

4. He doesn’t feel anything to his partner

If a man loves his woman he thinks only about her during sex and in normal life. The feeling of love always makes us owners and we don’t allow ourselves thinking about other people and we don’t accept the thought that our partners could do it. In harmonised relations when both partners are happy the man won’t have any thoughts about other women not only in sex but in other situations too.

5. He wants to make an impression on his partner

This is the least evident point, but if a man thinks about other woman during sex it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love his girlfriend. Actually he wants to make an impression by his sexual abilities and give her as much pleasure as possible.

And to do this he may need to remember everything about his previous successful experiences and repeat it with his present partner. Yes, men quite often think that if one girl liked some particular stimulation than all girls like it.

But if his motive is your pleasure than it’s not clever to blame him in unfaithfulness.

In the end we want say that we live in consumer’s age. Social webs are full of potential partners and people in Internet look ideally but in real life they are much simpler. We can’t help thinking about other people because they are everywhere.

According to statistics of Sex Research journal approximately 98% of men and 80% think about somebody besides their partners in erotic sense. It means that practically all of us dreamed about having sex with some other person and it’s quite possible that we did it during sex with our partners.

The main question is does a man realize that fantasy is something that is not necessary to make real in life. The nature of sexual fantasies is subliminal so it’s quite hasty to say that we choose a subject of our dreams by ourselves. Yes, fantasies are formed by many factors like memories and emotions connected with them, upbringing, social surrounding, ex-partners and many other things. But you can never say that we can fully control them and subordinate them to the rational part of our brain.